I remember when turning 40 seemed way off. When my mom turned 40, it was the first time I thought "Oh no, my mom is getting old!" Mind you, she's still alive and kicking 34 years later.
I have friends in their 30s and are like "Aaaaaah!!! I'll be 40 soon!" I even had a friend who did not want to tell me their age at first, only to find out I'm older than them! What is it about 40 that freaks people out so much anyway? I will be 42 later this year so I've had some time to let this settle and I'm here to tell you, it's okay, it's actually pretty cool!
I didn't freak out too much when I turned 40 and I'm totally cool sharing my age. Maybe it helps that I started to go gray in High School? The only thing I really reflected on was how I let my 30s pass me by. I wrote about that in my old blog. I just worked too damn much and didn't enjoy myself as much as I should have, it was all just work, work, work. When I turned 40, it was a good time to change my thinking and do things I want and enjoy the little things that make me happy. I don't want to think about how much time I have left. I'm pretty sure I suffer from Thanatophobia so to quote Return of the Living Dead, "I try not to think about dying too much."
When you're younger, you swear that you'll never become lame like older folks. You are gonna party, stay out late, and always be super cool. I was never gonna be uncool. What did The Who sing? Hope I die before I get old. How did that work out for them?
I stopped being cool before I even got to 40. =/
Things started to turn when the Warped Tour would come around and I had no idea who these bands were. Then all these newer bands started to suck. There is so much bad music out there now! It was so much better when I was younger, I'll just stick to listening to MY bands. Holy crap, it happened! I got "old."
- I traded hanging out at a bar to being at a coffee shop.
- I've turned into a morning person - I never thought that would happen!
- I don't need to go out Friday or Saturday night - I'm content staying in and watching a movie and have a nice meal.
- I'm listening to "older" music (depending on what's old to you). I don't know much "new" music.
- There are a shit ton of apps and internet acronyms I know nothing about.
- I listen to my music now at a respectable volume because I can't handle loud volume, I like loud music, just not played loud lol!
- I can't eat what I want, when I want and not expect to feel like garbage the next day. You can slow down your body aging but you can't deny that the older you get, the less reckless you should be with your body.
Despite what I said earlier, I'm not old. Some days I feel old physically, especially when I first wake up, ugh. Here's what's cool though...
Being in your 40s now is not the same as it was forty years ago. You can still be silly, go to concerts, play video games, read comic books, wear ironic t-shirts, get tattoos and piercings, color your hair crazy colors, and have quirky interests. Most of my friends are quirky and unique and I love them for that. We're all smarter now to make better decisions on how to have fun, enjoy that fun, and remember how much fun we had the following morning. You may even finding yourself appreciating the smaller things more than you have before - like treating yourself to flowers, drinking coffee and reading the newspaper Sunday morning, or listening to some records over dinner <---this has becoming a thing in my home. :)
Since you're in your 40s, you can also say FUCK ALL to anyone who tries to make fun of you because by now, you should feel comfortable enough with yourself to not have to worry about peer pressure. Let's face it, peer pressure continues way after high school. It becomes easier to cut people out of your life who just suck energy out of you. You don't need to impress anyone anymore. Sure, 40 is a big number and you can view it as a turning point, but it doesn't have to be the start of the second-half of your life.