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Protecting Planned Parenthood

I love Planned Parenthood and support them 1000%. I am so fortunate to live in a state like New York and not Texas where I can easily access their services if needed.  It is so frustrating when Conservatives and ignorant, religious folks try to box Planned Parenthood in as a one-stop abortion drive-thru. They share pictures of aborted fetuses for shock value without regard for how many lives Planned Parenthood saves.  With Congress returning to work this week, I have some concerns.


Planned Parenthood is one of the nation's leading providers of high-quality, affordable health care for women, men, and young people, and the nation's largest provider of sex education. Planned Parenthood also works with partner organizations worldwide to improve the sexual health and well-being of individuals and families everywhere.

The reality is, abortions are just 3% of the services Planned Parenthood provides. The bulk of their work is to provide STD & HIV testing, Pap tests, breast Cancer screenings, educational programs to prevent pregnancies, assist with birth control, and so much more.

Why is Planned Parenthood such a threat?!?! The bigger question is, why are women seen as such a threat?  Women are not trying to take over, they just want to be treated equally and live a life of liberty and pursuit of happiness, you know, from the Declaration of Independence.  It is the 21st Century and men are still trying to control what a woman can do with her body, what the fuck?!?

The next administration looks to have a bunch of old, white, men who want to restrict or remove services that could potentially SAVE lives.  In addition to our next Vice President, Mike Pence, the next Secretary of Health & Human Services, Tom Price, wants to end funding for Planned Parenthood.  He's also got some pretty fucked up views about birth control.  He believes life begins at conception (!!!!), so birth control=murder.  While in Congress, he opposed a law that would prevent employers in DC from discriminating against women on birth control or have had an abortion. Face it, the man hates birth control.

From Planned Parenthood's Action Fund blog

Even if you don't need it for yourself, think about your family, friends, and stand up for Women's rights and help Planned Parenthood keep their doors open.

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Why Can't We Be Facebook Friends?


It's been two weeks since the election and I'm still feeling raw.  Facebook is not helping but I can't stop looking at it.  There's so much bullshit and nastiness and hypocrisy, ugh, I hate hypocrisy so much.  Friends and family members are getting unfollowed over this.  I wonder if I would cut someone off because of this election? I did not anticipate this much of a divide even though as of this writing, Clinton is leading in the popular vote by 1.5 million.  I understand that people I'm friends with did not vote for Clinton because:

  • they really don't like Hillary Clinton
  • they really don't like President Obama 
  • they really don't like Political Correctness
  • they're tired of lifetime politicians running the country
  • they believe that this is the CHANGE that will make their lives better
  • they think he's gonna bring back jobs and fix the economy

They are willing to overlook all the negative traits Donald Trump carries because hey, nobody is perfect right? We all say and do stupid things sometimes.  

Can I digress for a minute and make wrestling analogy (again with the wrestling!)?

I was a fan of Chris Benoit. I thought he was really cool and great in the ring. That immediately changed in June 2007, the day I found out he killed his wife and son and took his own life. A lot of wrestling fans still say he's one of their favorite wrestlers. For me, that one act cancels out all of his accomplishments in the ring.  Fuck that guy!!!

I am having a very hard time giving Donald Trump a chance especially when:

  • he continues to make as ass of himself on Twitter (can someone change his password??)
  • his cabinet picks and considerations continues to be alarming and a threat to women, foreigners and LGBTQ
  • he was endorsed by the KKK
  • he is not doing enough to speak out about the continuing vandalism and attacks on people done in his name

Notice I didn't bring up anything prior to the election, this is all recent!

Where does this leave my friends?  I don't think they're racist or sexist jerks. I do think they are tired of seeing others benefit while they get shafted. They feel strongly enough that they are willing to overlook the threats faced by others because the greater good is coming, or they're just complacent.  I want to understand, I really do. 

It's okay to disagree with me, we can talk about that, but don't belittle me.  I know what it's like to share different views as most of your friends. I did not vote for Obama in 2008.  I was not a member of the Obama Fan Club. This put me in the minority with a lot of my friends who were all "Yay!!! Hope and change!!" While I was thinking, "We are fucked." But I did not troll around Facebook trying to burst people's bubble with reality checks.  

I'm tired of being around negative people. I have been negative for far too long. I don't need this shit in my life. We are in a fragile time where we need to build each other up, not tear each other down because we don't agree. Let's find some common ground. Life is short to be wasted on people who won't support you or try to make this world we all live in a better place.  I know you're more than just who you voted for.  You can have your views and opinions but your actions say more about who you are.  If you voted for Clinton and you don't say "Thank You" if I hold the door open for you, I'm gonna think you're a dick.  If you voted for Trump but you volunteer at homeless shelter, I'll have more respect for you. If I know you and voted for Trump and all you got to say is, "Get over it you sore loser! You're all a bunch of cry babies!" then you're not my friend, g'bye.

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Let's Start Today

Doing nothing for others is the undoing of ourselves.

Ok, after a fluff post, it's time I did some writing therapy.  So here we go.

I am more scared for our country now than I was after 9/11.  Since Election Day, the reports of harassment and vandalism throughout the nation is just sickening. How far are these hateful people going to go? I worry about domestic terrorism more than Islamic to be honest!

"Not all people who voted for Trump feel this way!" Prove it!  

Hundreds of hate crimes have been reported since Election Day. Supporting our next President does not give you the right to openly show your hate.  Do NOT use our next President as an excuse to act on your hate. You are wrong, there is no way around it.  When you leave sarcastic comments in a Facebook discussion, anonymously leave a threatening letter on your neighbors door, vandalize someone's car, verbally/physically assault someone, or are just quick to shrug off the genuine concern that half the country is feeling - just shows that you do not want move forward. Don't you want to move forward and "make America great again?"  

America, with all it's faults, is already a great country.  This country is great because it's dealt with serious shit and has come out of it better - The Great Depression, Watergate/Vietnam, Reganomics, 9/11.  We get through it because there are many people who are willing to put in the work to help this country move forward. I will do what I can to support the LGBT community and stand for equal rights for women and PoC.  We will somehow get through the next 4 years, but it will not be pretty.  

Our next election is in 2018 where in addition to your local elections, all 435 seats in the House of Representatives and 33 of the 100 seats in the Senate will be up for election. Start your research now, you're already staring at your phones refreshing your Twitter/Facebook/Instagram, take a moment to look up who your local reps are and see if they jive with your views.  Don't wait four years, start today!

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Let's Turn This Shit Around



Here I am after another long unexpected break. How you doing?  

I'm writing this the day after Election Day and like half of the nation, I'm very disappointed in our President Elect.  I've been upset with previous elections but ooooh boy, this was a doozy!   My stomach was in a knot all night, I didn't go to bed until after 1:00 am but I pretty much knew what the outcome would be. It's a wonder I got any sleep at all. 

Today I spent most of the day watching MSNBC, moping around, being a bit of a doom and gloomer, and stuffed my face with some Dunkin Donuts.  Then I cut that shit out.  There are causes I always felt strongly about but I haven't been too vocal about it and I want to change that.   If anything good has come out of this election personally, it's made me want to do more and be more involved in the causes I care about.

I can't believe in 2016, there are still those who are afraid to just go about their lives.  I am Independent, Pro-Choice, Pro-LGBT, Pro-Sexual Freedom, and a supporter equal rights for everyone.  There's been a shift in my thinking the last couple of years as more and more bad shit is reported on the news, and it's making less sense. This election in particular brought out the ugly in a lot of people and and it's disheartening.  I don't want to live in a country where people are afraid of getting hurt or worse, just because of who they are.  I can't just #facepalm and complain to Mike about it any longer.

Has this election lit a fire under anyone else's ass?

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