Self Love

Things To Do On A Snow Day


I am in the middle of a blizzard, I think it's called "Stella" (??), which is impacting most of the entire North East. Where I live is looking to get AT LEAST a foot of snow!!! This is how my bench looked this morning.


I still love the start of a snowfall.  I don't get to enjoy "Snow Day" since I work from home but it's nice to not have that pressure of wondering how I would get to work or if I should even bother.

Last year I talked about my love of breakfast, reading ebooks, and binge watching my Roku.  Not much has changed but I'll add a few more things to the list of things I enjoy doing on a snow day: 

I'm still going through my subscription of New Yorker Magazine.  I'm currently 2 weeks behind with their issues.  Once this subscription runs out I'm looking to start another, I'm thinking National Geographic.  Any suggestions?


Preparing my coffee in the morning has become a different kind of ritual.  It takes longer now, but I can afford the extra time to make my coffee.  I've gotten into grinding my beans which I purchased from Irving Farms Coffee Roasters in Millerton, NY.  It is the only coffee I drink black because it's that good.


Listen to more records!!  Last Friday there was a Vinyl Record Pop-Up in Beacon, NY so I had to check it out. I found some good stuff.  This is my half of the loot, Mike brought home some good stuff too.  This is a good day to spin some records all day, as long as the power doesn't go out.

My latest vinyl record scores

Are you snowed in today? What are you favorite things to do on a snow day?

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Don't Tell Me How To Feel!

Don't Tell Me How To Feel

The Holidays is a major time of the year. It can be joyous and exciting, stressful, or real depressing.  It definitely conjurs up different emotions.  We all know someone who is just always super bubbly and chipper, a friend, family member, coworker.  Those people who are always so freakin' happy and see the positive in everything. God forbid you happen to be in a mood around these people, they try extra hard to cheer you up to the point you want to stab yourself with a fork.  They can be so annoying right? And misleading.    

It could be easy to get sucked into a hole of negative thoughts and comparisons when you look at your Instagram, Facebook, blog reads and see that other's seem to have all together.  Life is just so great for them, where did I go wrong? Why can't I be as happy as them?   Here's the thing, you can't. You can't because that's them, not you.  You can find your own happy when you're ready for it, not when someone else tells you to be.  

Trust me, those people have crummy days too, they may be better at hiding it, or are not as in touch in their feelings as you are.  People who force themselves not to feel any bad feelings are in for a rude awakening and could possiblly snap.

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You have an advantage because you are being honest with youself.  It's good to let yourself feel sad sometimes.  

A great quote from Michael James at Tiny Buddha:

Denying our emotions is an insult to the journey of what it means to be a human being, and it does nothing to help people feel better.  

I seriously tried to force the positivity on myself many times and it wouldn't work.  Sometimes when I get in my "moods" I give up forcing it away and just ride it out, have a good cry, because good cries are...good!

This article also mentioned being bombarded on Instagram with messages telling you to cheer up, look forward, always look on the bright side.  It's like we are constantly being told that we need to positive at all times.  I've tried posting positive affirmations on Instagram too...


This too shall pass. #wednesdaymotivation #wednesdaywisdom #keepcalm #wordsofwisdom #wordstoliveby #motivation #words #cheerup

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I posted this over the Summer as a message to myself when I was in a real funk.  I stayed in a funk most of the Summer.   It may be a nice message, but not everyone wants to, or needs to hear it.  Be sad, be annoyed, be angry!  Believe me, I am going to be angry, worried, and terrified for at least the next four years and I will not accept someone telling me to "Let it go" or "Move on, let's see what happens." Nope, you better kill that noise right now.

Of course, there's being sad for a few days (in a funk), and then there's suffering from depression.  When you're in a funk, you can still live your life, laugh at jokes, take part in your hobbies.  Depression can be debilitating and crippling. If your thoughts lean towards ending your life, then it is time to seek help.  How are you feeling today?

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